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Becoming Baba

Fatherhood, Faith, and Finding Meaning in America

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On sale Jul 08, 2025 | 272 Pages | 9780385549615

From Slate staff writer Aymann Ismail comes an exquisite memoir about fatherhood, religion, and the search for identity in an ever-shifting world.

The son of Egyptian immigrants, Aymann Ismail came of age in the shadow of 9/11, tracking the barrage of predatory headlines pervading the media and influencing the popular consciousness about Muslims. After a series of bomb threats were directed at his Islamic school in Teaneck, New Jersey, just a few miles from downtown Manhattan, his parents—anxious that it was no longer safe to be so explicitly Muslim—enrolled him in public school, where he was the only Muslim his new friends had ever met. In the privacy of their home, they turned to their faith for guidance on how to live, adhering to traditional notions about gender roles, and avoiding the putative American dangers of alcohol, sex, and rebellion.

And yet, Aymann is undeniably an American teenager, negotiating his place in multiple worlds while chafing against the structures of his upbringing. He eventually embarks on a career in political journalism, in part to establish his own version of things. In time, though, he also gains a deeper understanding and appreciation for his parents' values and sacrifices—his father’s grueling work ethic as a town car driver, and his mother’s adeptness at managing their itinerant family.

When Aymann meets and falls in love with Mira, a woman with her own ideas about the modern Muslim family, his world shifts yet again. After Mira gets pregnant with their first child, Aymann begins to reckon with his past, future, and the beliefs that have shaped his life. What does it mean to be a Muslim man? More still, what does it mean to be any man—and a father to a baby boy and girl? And how best to honor one’s cultural heritage while holding space for change and discovery?  

In lucid, confident prose, Aymann Ismail questions the sturdy frameworks of religion and family, the legacies of his childhood, and what will become his children's ethical and intellectual inheritance. To reckon unflinchingly with these questions offers him a road map for his young Muslim children on how to navigate the singular journey into adulthood.
“Guaranteed to steal your heart, Becoming Baba is a profound meditation on what it means to build a self and a family in an often unwelcoming land. Ismail has written an American Odyssey.” —Junot Díaz, Pulitzer Prize winner and author of This Is How You Lose Her

“Aymann Ismail is one of the most insightful reporters of his generation. In this beautiful memoir, he uses his powers of perception to examine his own lifeas a Muslim growing up in the United States, and as son, husband and father struggling to be as true to his loved ones as he is to himself. Few books deliver on their promise to introduce you to a new world, but Becoming Baba does so on every page, making old questions new again: What does it mean to be American? What does it mean to be a good person? What does it mean to have faith? Ismail funny, tender-hearted, and relentlessly honestmakes finding the answers a total pleasure.” —Suzy Hansen, author of Notes on a Foreign Country: An American Abroad in a Post-American World

“A soulful and entertaining love letter to Ismail's hometownnow I get why he is so obsessed with Newark.” —Nicolas Heller (@newyorknico)

“A delight, told with great candor and wisdom…feels universal….At times, I found myself chuckling and then, later, nodding in agreement as Aymann brilliantly chronicles the challenges of finding your faith and finding your footing as a parent.” —Asma Khalid, White House correspondent for NPR and co-host of the NPR Politics Podcast

“A Muslim American’s search for love, faith, and family, Aymann Ismail’s Becoming Baba will grab your heart and feed your soul.” —Moustafa Bayoumi

“Aymann charts new territory with his brilliant and vulnerable insight into Becoming Baba. More than just becoming a dad—Becoming Baba is a rare look into the journey of coming into the enigma of our fathers. Aymann is a professional Truth Teller. Becoming Baba is his most honest work yet.” —Noor Tagouri, journalist, founder: At Your Service

“Aymann delivers an unflinchingly honest coming-of-age memoir that is equal parts personal and universal. He tells a story of family, identity, and the messy—but beautiful—journey that is learning to make peace with where you come from, all the while widening the lens on what it means to a young, American, Muslim father today.” —Malika Bilal, senior presenter at Al Jazeera

Becoming Baba is a beautiful, poignant, and timely read. Aymann Ismail elegantly captures the nuances of being a Muslim, an immigrant, and a father in America. This is a critical book for our time.” —Zainab Salbi, humanitarian and author of Between Two Worlds: Escape From Tyranny: Growing Up in the Shadow of Saddam and Freedom Is an Inside Job

“A love letter to the American dream—complete with all its frustrations, pains and joys. Ayman shares the push and pull that so many immigrant families face between settling in the United States while still honoring family and religious traditions, and he so with honesty and wit…an entertaining journey to becoming Baba.” —Dean Obeidallah, host of Sirius XM's The Dean Obeidallah Show
AYMANN ISMAIL is an award-winning Slate magazine staff writer focusing especially on identity and religion. He is the creator of the Slate video series "Who's Afraid of Aymann Ismail?," in which he offers an intimate portrayal of American Muslims. Aymann also hosts "Man Up,"--a podcast exploring men, relationships, family, race, and sex--which seeks to provide a blueprint for navigating discussions of masculinity. His work has been featured on CNN, The New York Times, NPR, GQ, The Atlantic, Columbia Journalism Review, and The Huffington Post. He lives in Newark, New Jersey with his family. View titles by Aymann Ismail

About

From Slate staff writer Aymann Ismail comes an exquisite memoir about fatherhood, religion, and the search for identity in an ever-shifting world.

The son of Egyptian immigrants, Aymann Ismail came of age in the shadow of 9/11, tracking the barrage of predatory headlines pervading the media and influencing the popular consciousness about Muslims. After a series of bomb threats were directed at his Islamic school in Teaneck, New Jersey, just a few miles from downtown Manhattan, his parents—anxious that it was no longer safe to be so explicitly Muslim—enrolled him in public school, where he was the only Muslim his new friends had ever met. In the privacy of their home, they turned to their faith for guidance on how to live, adhering to traditional notions about gender roles, and avoiding the putative American dangers of alcohol, sex, and rebellion.

And yet, Aymann is undeniably an American teenager, negotiating his place in multiple worlds while chafing against the structures of his upbringing. He eventually embarks on a career in political journalism, in part to establish his own version of things. In time, though, he also gains a deeper understanding and appreciation for his parents' values and sacrifices—his father’s grueling work ethic as a town car driver, and his mother’s adeptness at managing their itinerant family.

When Aymann meets and falls in love with Mira, a woman with her own ideas about the modern Muslim family, his world shifts yet again. After Mira gets pregnant with their first child, Aymann begins to reckon with his past, future, and the beliefs that have shaped his life. What does it mean to be a Muslim man? More still, what does it mean to be any man—and a father to a baby boy and girl? And how best to honor one’s cultural heritage while holding space for change and discovery?  

In lucid, confident prose, Aymann Ismail questions the sturdy frameworks of religion and family, the legacies of his childhood, and what will become his children's ethical and intellectual inheritance. To reckon unflinchingly with these questions offers him a road map for his young Muslim children on how to navigate the singular journey into adulthood.

Praise

“Guaranteed to steal your heart, Becoming Baba is a profound meditation on what it means to build a self and a family in an often unwelcoming land. Ismail has written an American Odyssey.” —Junot Díaz, Pulitzer Prize winner and author of This Is How You Lose Her

“Aymann Ismail is one of the most insightful reporters of his generation. In this beautiful memoir, he uses his powers of perception to examine his own lifeas a Muslim growing up in the United States, and as son, husband and father struggling to be as true to his loved ones as he is to himself. Few books deliver on their promise to introduce you to a new world, but Becoming Baba does so on every page, making old questions new again: What does it mean to be American? What does it mean to be a good person? What does it mean to have faith? Ismail funny, tender-hearted, and relentlessly honestmakes finding the answers a total pleasure.” —Suzy Hansen, author of Notes on a Foreign Country: An American Abroad in a Post-American World

“A soulful and entertaining love letter to Ismail's hometownnow I get why he is so obsessed with Newark.” —Nicolas Heller (@newyorknico)

“A delight, told with great candor and wisdom…feels universal….At times, I found myself chuckling and then, later, nodding in agreement as Aymann brilliantly chronicles the challenges of finding your faith and finding your footing as a parent.” —Asma Khalid, White House correspondent for NPR and co-host of the NPR Politics Podcast

“A Muslim American’s search for love, faith, and family, Aymann Ismail’s Becoming Baba will grab your heart and feed your soul.” —Moustafa Bayoumi

“Aymann charts new territory with his brilliant and vulnerable insight into Becoming Baba. More than just becoming a dad—Becoming Baba is a rare look into the journey of coming into the enigma of our fathers. Aymann is a professional Truth Teller. Becoming Baba is his most honest work yet.” —Noor Tagouri, journalist, founder: At Your Service

“Aymann delivers an unflinchingly honest coming-of-age memoir that is equal parts personal and universal. He tells a story of family, identity, and the messy—but beautiful—journey that is learning to make peace with where you come from, all the while widening the lens on what it means to a young, American, Muslim father today.” —Malika Bilal, senior presenter at Al Jazeera

Becoming Baba is a beautiful, poignant, and timely read. Aymann Ismail elegantly captures the nuances of being a Muslim, an immigrant, and a father in America. This is a critical book for our time.” —Zainab Salbi, humanitarian and author of Between Two Worlds: Escape From Tyranny: Growing Up in the Shadow of Saddam and Freedom Is an Inside Job

“A love letter to the American dream—complete with all its frustrations, pains and joys. Ayman shares the push and pull that so many immigrant families face between settling in the United States while still honoring family and religious traditions, and he so with honesty and wit…an entertaining journey to becoming Baba.” —Dean Obeidallah, host of Sirius XM's The Dean Obeidallah Show

Author

AYMANN ISMAIL is an award-winning Slate magazine staff writer focusing especially on identity and religion. He is the creator of the Slate video series "Who's Afraid of Aymann Ismail?," in which he offers an intimate portrayal of American Muslims. Aymann also hosts "Man Up,"--a podcast exploring men, relationships, family, race, and sex--which seeks to provide a blueprint for navigating discussions of masculinity. His work has been featured on CNN, The New York Times, NPR, GQ, The Atlantic, Columbia Journalism Review, and The Huffington Post. He lives in Newark, New Jersey with his family. View titles by Aymann Ismail